HI RAVENLOX, not everyone meets the right man in their 20s and 30s. I spent my 20s having fun with friends and travelling, and didn't want a serious relationship. Then when i was about 29 i felt i was ready to settle down. I had a five-year relationship with a guy who I loved dearly but who didn't want to settle down so i finally left him. then i didn't really meet anyone who i thought was right for me until just before i turned 40. I thank my lucky stars that i did as my husband is fantastic.

Some people think women who don't have kids or settle down until their late 30s or even early 40s are very career minded. in my experience that's is almost always not the case. Some women never want to have children but they are a minority. most want to but if you're not in the right relationship or aren't in one at all then what are you supposed to do. You have to work and so you do so, and often enjoy your work/career, but still spend your time looking for the right guy. i have a number of friends who are now in the their 40s who would have loved to have had kids but relationship wise things just didn't work out. Or their marriages didn't work out.

you ask about how i'd feel about my child being 10 when i'm 50, we'll it's not that unusal these days. i have loads of friends who haven't had kids until the were older. In fact, out of my friends, the youngest age was 25 to have a baby, and she really struggled at the time because she didn't know anyone with kids. Plus these days 30 is the new 40, 40 is the new 50 etc. I feel fantastic, am slim and healthy, run regularly and don't look my age. I don't think you age itself really makes much of a difference - except as you say, that you definately don't have the same amount of energy as you do when you're in your 20s or 30s. but that certainly isn't a reason not to have kids. you just wouldn't have 3 or 4!! Not that there's the time anyway!

I hope you feel blessed that you met a good bloke and got to enjoy having kids young. Not everyone else is that lucky. MissMac.