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Time To Shift The Focus

Hands up all those perfect parents out there. Woohoo you rock! Yeah, go on put your hands down and get off that high horsethere is no such thing. Unless you really do live in a perfect world and think your kids are absolute saints, good luck with that, haha! I know we all have our moments where the sun shines out of their little backsides and they can do no wrong, but that lasts a good five minutes right? And that is only if you’re lucky. 
 
In the whole scheme of things, who cares what anyone else thinks?! Sadly, we all do. Too often we worry about what other people think. I’m guilty of it and have been for probably most of my adult life. As parents, those thoughts seem to intensify and we feel like the world is against us. It’s hard enough when you are trying to deal with the mini versions of yourself, battling to get through most days, let alone worry about the rest of society. But you do and you will, no matter what you tell yourself. 
 
So it begs the question why do we do it to ourselves? The pressure we put on ourselves to be the best parents we can possibly be is just insane. Sadly, I’m super guilty of putting way too much pressure on my parenting skills and of being an absolutely judgmental cow when it comes to others. No seriously, we all do it. Don’t lie you know you do! It’s human nature and whether you like it or not, you will be judged by your actions. And just like my three-year-old has perfected saying, here it comes…whyyyyyyyyy? And just like I would answer her, because that’s the way it is. 
 
Okay so probably not the most adult answer but it is true. We judge and we are judged, every single day, even if it’s by our own offspring. I must admit, life certainly takes some twists and turns when you bring kids into the world. You go from being judged by how you look and what you eat and launch headfirst on to a whole new level. 
 
It all starts with whether you choose to bottle feed or breast feed. As if you don’t have enough going on when you have a screaming hot mess to deal with, and I’m talking about yourself as a new mum, haha! But in all seriousness it’s very much a big topic. Not everyone is blessed with being able to breast feed their child and there is nothing wrong with that. Just like there is nothing wrong with babies being fed with a bottle. It isn’t worth the stress, dirty looks or wayward comments from strangers. You do what is best for you and your child. As long as your baby is being fed and you are all happy, that’s really all that matters. 
 
This is followed on by the buy (pouch/packaged) or make your own food dilemma. Now, I was one of those first time mums who spent hours in the kitchen steaming, mashing and freezing all varying amounts of purée for my eldest daughter. I was pretty proud of my efforts too, that is until they were thrown back in my face and all over the floor, sigh. Yep for every mouthful that may have been swallowed, ten more found their way onto many surfaces around the house. She cried, I cried and then I gave up and decided to buy pre-made food from the shops and we all became much happier. Once again being fed became more important than the pride of creating culinary delights, despite the many naysayers around us. Needless to say, once my youngest daughter was on to solid food I didn’t need to think twice about my options! 
 
And yep it doesn’t end there, the fun of raising children and the judgement too of course. But in the end, you have to remember who has the lucky job of parenting, and ultimately that is you. Yes, you will have your moments of doubt but don’t let anyone make you feel like you can’t do it! But when all else fails, just laugh, it keeps everyone (including your kids) guessing. 
 
Being a mum is definitely a path of ups and downs. Follow all the fun and crazy adventures of parenting through my blog at shereeechlin.com

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