5 Mistakes New Parents will Make in Their First Year

By Karli Steenkamp

Being new parents is both an exciting and nerve-wracking experience. Nothing compares to that moment you hold your child for the first time. A mix of emotions and fears and you know your life will change dramatically. There is no manual for parenting; it is all about trusting yourself and your partner to raise a little human. It is all about what works for you and what doesn’t. Parents make many mistakes, it doesn’t matter what age the children are. It is about trial and error. Finding your feet and what routine works best for you. There are five common mistakes that new parents do make and can try and avoid if they are made aware of it.

Car seat safety

Finding the correct car seat can be an unnecessary stress for new parents. It could be great to take hand-me-downs from family or friends. However, there are a few things to consider. It is important to know the history behind the car seat. A car seat older than 10 years should not be used, according to Canstar blue. If a car seat is damaged or has been in an accident before, you should not use it again.

You have to find the correct seat for your baby and regularly check that the seat is still suitable for your child. A newborn car seat can last from birth to 2 years old. The car seat should be rear-facing. Always ensure that your baby’s weight does not exceed the maximum amount that the seat can carry. All car seats should have a sign which explains that it is approved by the law of the country.

The safest place to put the car seat is at the back. Even though it would be easier to put the car seat in the front, it is not safe. If the airbag pops, it can hurt your baby or even cause death.

Always make sure that your baby is strapped in and the seat is safely secured with a safety belt.

Advice from others

They say it takes a village to raise a child, which is true. However, family, friends and even strangers will often offer new parents advice; things that have worked for them. It can be very overwhelming as new parents to get all this information and not know what to do with it. Take all the advice you can get and decide what you want to try. There might be a time where you tried all of your own methods and nothing worked. Having one or two people you can trust with parenting advice is all you need. You will eventually find your own routines and tricks up your sleeves; it is just a matter of what works for you as a family.

Panicking

Every situation with a newborn is new. As a parent, you learn as you go. However, there are situations which can make you clueless and can cause you to panic. As hard as it is, try to stay calm and think logically. Babies and kids smell fear and will react to how you feel.

If a baby develops a fever, it is usually a sign that he or she is not well. If they are under three months, it is better to see a doctor to rule out any serious infections. If they are older than three months, a fever should go down when treated.

Trust your instincts as parents. If in doubt then go to the doctor. As you learn more about your child, you will know when to worry and when not to.

Comparing

If you have friends or family with babies, don’t fall into the comparison trap. Every child develops at his or her own pace. Everyone’s circumstances are different. Your child will reach their milestones when they are ready. Always consult a pediatrician if you are worried about your child’s growth. Stimulation, attention, a good diet and sleeping patterns will guide your little one along.

Neglecting each other

You barely have time to take a five minute shower, let alone making time for your partner. It is important to keep your relationship strong and healthy. You have to rely on one another to make great parenting decisions. Respect one another’s opinions and share the duties. Make time for date nights without your child.

There are many mistakes that parents will make. You learn as you go and every child is different. Have faith in yourself and your partner and don’t be so harsh if either of you make a mistake. Parenting is an exciting, unknown world full of what-ifs. It is a rewarding role – enjoy every moment and embrace every mistake.

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