How To Deal With Your Swearing Toddler

Written by Jana Angeles

Swearing is part of our daily lives for some of us. Whether it’s feeling frustrated or upset over something, swearing takes a kick out of a vocabulary and accurately describes how we feel sometimes. Though some of us might like to chuck in a couple of inappropriate words here and there, we must be wary about the type of language we use around our toddler. As they grow older, the “grace period” in which they are unable to talk will catch up eventually to us in some way or another. As parents, we have to be conscious about the words we use around our children because dealing with a swearing toddler can only get worse if we aren’t aware of their negative impact.

Why do children swear?

Oftentimes children swear to explore their vocabulary. Saying rude words is their chance of experimenting with a particular language while also having the desire to understand what they mean. In this case, sometimes children say swear words to get a reaction from someone or they just want to express feelings of frustration and sadness.

What steps should I take if I hear my child swearing?

Ignore them: One of the most effective ways to handle when your child is swearing is to completely ignore it. Pay no attention to them when you hear something out of the ordinary. They may be saying that particular word to seek attention from you. Do your best to “forget” about what they said.

Stay calm: Getting angry or frustrated at your child won’t do you any favours so remaining calm when your child is swearing encourages a positive attitude from you. Remember to not take it personally and do your best to understand where they’re coming from.

Teach your child what those words mean: Sometimes you just need to sit down and talk to your child about swear words. Allow them to learn other words that aren’t offensive when it comes to expressing their feelings of hurt and despair.

Correct their pronunciation: Sometimes children say swear words while trying to sound out other words in the vocabulary. Simply correcting them can make all the difference.

Are there any further actions I need to take?

There are further steps to take if you feel like your child isn’t straying away from swear words. Here are some ways where you can improve the ‘swearing’ situation for your toddler:

Discuss what words you want to be said within the household. When grandparents, other relatives and friends come over, mention what words you’re allowed to say around their children. Sometimes other words such as ‘damn’ are forbidden to be said so give people a heads up on what appropriate language people should use.
If you’re so used to swearing as a force of habit, try and use alternative words to express your anger. Say statements like, “I feel upset/angry etc” as a way to let people know how you feel without the vulgar language.
Show praise towards your child when they stop saying swear words. Encouragement will help them stick to this behaviour.
Be aware what films or TV shows they’re exposed to on a daily basis. Be especially careful with PG rated things. Sometimes there are words that may seem inappropriate for parents used in children’s films and TV shows.

My child keeps swearing. What do I do next?

Teach your child how to deal with their anger and frustrations a different way. When they become agitated, show them alternatives to how they can remain calm.
Let them know it’s okay to feel upset over something but also tell them there are appropriate words to use when expressing negative feelings.
‘Flip’ and ‘shivers’ are examples of words they can use instead of swearing. You can also make up your own funny words as an alternative too.

Swearing is something most of us do on a daily basis but sometimes, there’s a time and a place to use foul language. Remember to be conscious of your words when you’re around your little ones. Don’t be afraid to speak up when it’s necessary and set boundaries with language if you feel you need to.