HOW TO BE A GREAT DAD WHEN YOU DIDN’T HAVE A DAD

Written by Lance Green

When you take a closer look at that greatest ambition in your life you will discern the rooting of some of your biggest losses as a human. Remember one of the quotes by Anne Frank which said regret is stronger than gratitude? Though it might seem a little out of context, let’s dig into a different and deeper perspective of her words. For example, an impoverished man’s biggest dream would be to satiate all his necessities, besides a prosperous man would never really realise how well off he’s doing in life.   

To sum it up, it would be wise to say that it is a man’s desideratum that fuels his drive-in life, and this can be witnessed especially when a man who was once denied the care of a father later decides to rise above it all. So, here’s the map to help you on your journey to master the art of being a complete father. Good luck!  

Be Active In Your Social Support Circle.   

We’ve all been there when we wished we knew something earlier. That’s when you need to start considering joining a bunch of supporters who proactively participate in helping each other out by being there as a support system. Yes! Fathers can have their consortium for this too, and it can sound a lot better than you think. Talk, which was pretty much underrated, will finally be given a vent to surge through. You can share your take on fatherhood and its downturns and also apprehend how other fathers endured throughout their journey.  

Get The Examples Set Right!  

Modelling good behaviour on your own so that your children readily have access to knowing what’s best, needless to say, certainly does the trick. But quite often, when you catch sight of an ideal father doing his thing, make sure you have a chat on their perspectives and insights. Become an ardent observer of the way they mingle in general, especially in the presence of children. Ask them how life has changed, and what it means for them to be a father. Focus on the positives and keep seeking inspiration around you.   

Share Your Responsibilities As Partners   

There’s no particular role that has to be gender appropriate. All rights and duties of parenthood can be shared equally without any prejudice. Trying different ways to set the balance right should be the responsibility of both the mother and father. As an example, things like discipline, and cleanliness should be professed and effectuated by the father as well.   

Prioritise Your Brood  

There’s nothing better to make you the quintessential father than to make your family your priority. Rooting for them and being a tad bit traditional on that front, can go miles in strengthening your character as a father. Though sometimes it may sound a little too sacrificial, it’s worth being a family man and considering yourself secondary as an individualistic member of the family. Make time for your children and be enterprisingly involved throughout all realms of their lives. The key to being a good father is to let them know you’ve got their back no matter what.   

Adhere To Your Set Of Virtues   

Everybody has their first-hand notions as to how a father should be. Introspect and find out which virtues you primarily want to adhere to while being a father. After all, though you can be the idealised version of a father, it still matters that you are true to yourself and your children. Changing for the good is welcome, but do not try to live in someone else’s skin. Set your morals straight. Take inspiration and get the better of yourself, because the only person you want to compete with is yourself. It can be guaranteed that with time and experience, this will reflect in the way you make many steadfast decisions when it comes to your child.   

Take It Easy  

Do not take the pressure of being an ideal dad. Forget perfection and just be genuine in your parental approaches. Not being able to grow alongside the support and care of a father could be traumatising for you so do not add on to the pressure, by considering it all as a tumultuous path. Since not having a father would have taught you your life lessons, just try to be a strong pillar of support to your child. Yes, they will face problems as children but give them time and guidance to come up with a fix to it. Do not solve it for them. Though the whole experience cannot be called gratifying, you will certainly come off as a better man than you were because of the things you learned from your kids.