THE IMPORTANCE OF SPENDING ONE ON ONE TIME WITH YOUR KIDS

Written by Lucy Hall

I understand there are challenges in trying to balance my work commitments, family life and that much needed, and not often taken, personal time. With all the commitments I have, pulling me in every direction, I also understand the importance of spending quality one-on-one time with my kids and how this time is essential to their development as well as my relationship with them. Here’s are some of the reason of why it’s important to spend one on one time with each of your kids:

It Builds a Strong Bond

Spending individual quality time with your kids allows you both to strengthen your bond. During these moments, you’ll have the chance to play games, be able to have uninterrupted conversations and make lasting memories of just the two of you. Investing quality time with your kids promotes a sense of security and belonging, which will improve your relationship as they grow from kid to teen and finally into adulthood.

Encourages Communication

When you spend quality one on one time with your kids, you automatically create a safe and open space for them to share their inner thoughts, feelings and any worries they have with you. Being away from their other siblings and or friends and spending time with them individually, it can help them feel more relaxed and willing to communicate their ideas and perspectives which maybe otherwise wouldn’t be possible. This time can help your kid improve their communication skills with you, with the added benefit of also giving you the chance to get a better understanding of what’s happening in their world as they grow and change.

Understand Their Needs

You will get to observe your kid’s behaviours, interests and preferences when you spend time with them alone. You will also have a better understanding of their independent personality and needs as they grow. With this information at your fingertips, you’ll be able to decide on their activities, education and even the most appropriate discipline approach that you may have to use, fingers cross that it doesn’t come to that though.

Teach Important Life Lessons

One on one time is a great time for you to pass on your wisdom and teach your kid some of the important life lessons you’ve learned along the way. During this time you can discuss values, morals and ethical dilemmas in a safe and supportive environment.

Create Unforgettable Memories

This time you spend with your kids will one day become special memories that you will look back on and thank yourself for. Even those simple activities like going for a walk, playing hide and seek or reading a book together, by participating in activities with your kids you’ll be creating shared experiences lay the foundation for a lifetime of love and happiness.

Encourage Independence

By focusing on spending one on one time with your kids individually, it can assist with their development in the skill of independence. Your kids will learn how to participate in activities, solve problems and make decisions without the need for constant parent supervision. It can also help them feel more confident in their ability to one day take care of themselves, in the far far far away future.

Recharge Your Relationship

Spending time with your kids one on one can be just what you didn’t know you both needed. Your kid’s childhood goes by in a flash, so making the time to spend together gives you both a break from your daily routines and allows you to both reconnect on a deeper level. This quality time that you are lucky to have doesn’t last, before you know it your kids will prefer to hang with their friends than you, so take the opportunity to strengthen your relationship with your kids while you can. You won’t regret it and you’ll  both feel the love and more importantly your kids know that you are there when they need you.

How to Make One on One Time a Priority

Schedule It: Set aside a specific time each week or month to spend alone with your Kid.

Be Present: When you’re with them, put away distractions and focus on being fully engaged.

Choose Activities They Enjoy: Ask your kid what they would like to do and tailor the time to their interests.

Make It A Regular Thing: Consistency is key to building a strong bond and supporting your kid’s development.

Don’t Be Afraid To Have Fun:  Make these moments enjoyable for both of you. Laughter, smiles, and shared experiences create lasting memories.

I encourage you to prioritise one on one time with your kid. The benefits are immeasurable and will strengthen your relationship, foster their development and create memories that will last a lifetime. It’s not just about quantity but more importantly about the quality of the time you spend together. Make it a priority and you will reap the rewards for years to come.