Top Signs You’re Ready to Toilet Train

Written by Ciara O’Hanlon

Toilet training is a big step for parent and child alike. Although frustrating at times, it can also be so rewarding watching your little person gain a new sense of independence and control over their bodies. There is no set age when a child should begin toilet training but you can expect to start anywhere from 18 months up until 3 years and beyond. The biggest mistake a parent can make is starting before their child is ready. Waiting until they’re ready can help eliminate some of this frustration. But how do we know when our children are ready to take on this mammoth task? Here are a few tips that can help you in reading the signs.

Having an audience: Although some people may find the thoughts of having someone studying your toilet routine a bit unnerving, this can be one of the best ways of determining if your child is ready to toilet train. Their interest means they are starting to realise that this is something they can also participate in. Talk them through every step and practice a good routine yourself, making sure to wash your hands properly as your child is closely studying your every move. This can help establish good bathroom etiquette in the future. It can be helpful to use a toy or teddy to act out the whole routine and let them role-play themselves.

Sitting still: One of the most important things for your child to be able to do before using the toilet or potty is being able to sit still for a few minutes at a time. If your child is not interested in sitting still, then they probably won’t have the patience for toilet training. If they can sit for a few minutes at a time and pull their own pants down then they could be ready to start. Begin by sitting them on the toilet or potty after changing their nappy so they can start to get a feel for it.

Pulling at their nappies: If your child is uncomfortable when they have a wet or soiled nappy and can let you know by pulling at it, or even better, by telling you they need changing, then they could be close to training. They also can show this by taking off their own soiled nappy. You can praise them for letting you know that by using the toilet, they will be able to avoid feeling weighed down and uncomfortable. You can also discuss with them how they felt just before they soiled themselves and try to make them more aware of this feeling so they can predict it themselves next time.

Follow multiple commands: There are many steps for your toddler to remember when it comes to using the toilet. If you have observed them following multiple commands in other aspects of their lives, such as cleaning up and putting their toys away or grabbing their clothes from their bedroom, then they could be ready for a bathroom routine. They’ll firstly need to remember to use the toilet in the first place, then wipe or shake in the case of little boys, followed by a good hand cleaning routine and then drying their hands thoroughly on the towel.

Remember that even if your child is showing all the signs and seems to be taking it in their stride, there will almost always be accidents and regressions along the way. Try not to add any extra pressure or show your disappointment or frustration as this will only lead to your child feeling ashamed and upset that they are letting you down, which, will just lead to more accidents.

If they have an accident, it can be helpful to pop them straight on to the potty or toilet so they are reminded of where they should be. Tell them accidents happen and that you’re not angry or upset with them but that they need to concentrate really hard the next time. Remind them that they can pause what they are doing and come straight back afterwards. Stay upbeat and positive and reinforce how proud you are of them every time they successfully use the toilet.