WAYS TO MAKE A STRONGER DECISION TOGETHER
Written by Feba Maryann
Decision-making is often the less-talked-about aspect in life but then why does making a decision ‘together’ grab some extra eyeballs? Well, sorry to break it to you, but it’s for real! Decision-making is not as easy as it used to be when you were living a solo life. Remember those times when you would spontaneously just do your thing and face what it takes? But things don’t work that way once you start sharing your life with a partner.
Ergo, this acceptance of transition can be facilitated with our 6 proven ways to make a decision better together. Ready for a great head start as strong as your solid partnership? Here we go:
Ask For Help
A brighter outset towards making a decision together is to ask for help when you need it. We’re sure you’ve already got the baby steps right if you’re reading this article. You could choose from a hodgepodge of both family and friends, both elder and young, to rely on for guidance. Make sure you don’t always form your decisions stationed upon hearsay and apply yourself to the advice you’ve been given.
Judge The Purview Of Your Roles As Partners
Whenever it comes to making a decision, humans naturally cast their vision on the outcome of the situation. So, here’s the tip, judge the impact by the need, that is, if it requires a unilateral or bilateral involvement of partners for decision making. For example, trivial decisions such as which Netflix show you want to binge on or which new restaurant in town, you’d like to visit next can be made based on your free will. But you cannot afford to be the maverick in decision making when it comes to the most crucial things, like changing jobs or moving into a new country.
Forecast The Upshot
After a series of discussions, with your partner, family, and friends you will have sufficient information to foresee the outcome of the situation. Embrace yourself for a range of upshots and be prepared. But this doesn’t mean you have to be pessimistic about a consequence, because agonizing over things you cannot control, simply kills your effort. Be the one with a plan, and to perform some nominal risk management especially if the decision can have an impact on your children and extended family. If you lose an opening considering the risk it calls for your family then do not regret it either. Keep making plans and go after your goals till you eventually run out of digits to count them.
Drop The Blame Game And Simply Commit
The blame game may not look as malicious as it sounds, but don’t even reckon about it. The underlying effects of inculpating your partner can tarnish your bond sooner than you’d think. Not all decisions end up having the desired after effect and just because you are right doesn’t mean your partner was wrong. It genuinely feels better to share the responsibility of an outcome and to just commit without pointing at each other.
Solitary Struggles Of A Partner In Decision Making
In a partnership, sometimes, either of the two might be terrible at making a decision particular to a subject. This might be due to their inabilities or lack of presence of mind or even the influence of their past traumatic experiences. In such a scenario, some decisions might be taken single-handedly by one of the partners. Though this can seed the upsurge into an ego-clash, this should be seen from a rather different perspective. When looked upon as decision making done on behalf of one another, the clashes harmoniously suffice themself.
The Golden ‘RRR’ Rule
Remember that grade 3 lesson on recycling materials with the ‘RRR’ rule for a healthier natural environment? When it comes to joint decision making, our RRR rule comprises three fundamental propositions to nurture a healthy partnership as well. The first ‘R’ stands for RELAY; it simply means communication between both partners about their opinions and this enhances their bond. The second ‘R’ stands for RESPECT which infers that mutual respect towards each other, irrespective of their choices equals great rapport in the relationship. Finally, the third ‘R’ stands for RELIANCE which signifies that trusting each other consistently is the best thing you can do to make a stronger decision together.