Why Keeping Your Pregnancy on the Down-Low May Be a Good Thing
Written by Jana Angeles
If you’re generally a private person and like to keep things on the down low, it may not be a surprise to you that you’d rather wait until you start telling people that you have a bun in the oven. However, we understand that excitement can get the best of us and we want to tell a few of our friends and our partner about the news, making it less of a secret to family and friends about the upcoming pregnancy.
While it is a good idea to tell people the good news, it can also be overwhelming to receive advice from friends and other relatives on what you should and shouldn’t do while you’re pregnant. It can be stressful having this over your head so it may be a good thing to keep your pregnancy on the down low – here’s why.
You want to have a low-key celebration
If you don’t like the idea of having people throwing a lavish party for you to celebrate your pregnancy, then keeping it hush for a while can mean you can celebrate with your partner and some of your close friends and family over dinner at your place or at a restaurant. Keeping it low-key can mean making a memorable occasion out of it, without the hurrah of all of your friends and family, which may be overwhelming.
You’re not ready to tell people just yet
If the thought of telling people that you’re pregnant gives you anxiety, maybe it’s best to wait it out a bit. The decision of telling people is a huge one, especially if you’re thinking about sharing it via a social media post on Facebook and Instagram. While it may result people showering you with ‘Congratulations’ comments here and there, there may be lots of questions about an upcoming baby shower from your friends. The expectations may make you feel unsettled and the last thing you want is to be a people pleaser at the end of the day.
You feel like it’s not a genuine announcement if you’ve put it on social media
As mentioned above, sharing it on social media may be your first preference because it takes the pressure off actually keeping it from your friends and family, making it “official” that you’ve now put it on Facebook or Instagram. However, you may feel like it’s not really a genuine announcement and loses the authentic touch of telling people in person. Maybe it’s time to reconsider your options and keep your pregnancy on the down low before you start making haste decisions.
Signs you’re ready to tell people about your pregnancy
If you simply cannot justify waiting to tell the good news about your pregnancy, here are some signs that you’re definitely ready to tell the people who are dear to you that you have a little one on the way:
- You start getting excited at the thought of celebrating with friends and family: you just can’t wait until they all know that you are expecting. The thought of throwing a reveal party that you’re pregnant is something you want to plan thoughtfully.
- You’re not worried about the advice you’ll get from people about pregnancy: if anything, you can learn a thing or two from people who have already gone through it. If this is your first child, you may want to know what the best and worst parts of pregnancy are.
- You simply want to celebrate your own happiness: if you and your partner have been trying to have a baby for a while and you’ve gone through a couple of setbacks, it only makes sense that you want to share the happiness around friends and family. You and your partner have done the hard yards, so keeping it a secret is pointless in the grand scheme of things if creating a family has been a top priority for quite some time.
Whatever you decide, keeping your pregnancy on the down low has it perks. However, if you and your partner have been trying to have a baby, maybe it’s still worth telling the news to family and friends when you can’t wait any longer.